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Sunday, July 13, 2014

Obligitory Lame-As-Shit Anniversary Post.

Feel free to vomit continuously whilst reading.
As I type, Jesse is seated next to me, watching cartoons, totally oblivious to the world around him.
When I look at him, I am reminded of many things that led us to right here, right now. Many of those things make me smile. Some make me wish I would have said or done things differently in the moment. And some of those things remind me that our relationship has been a labor of love. Sharing your life with someone can be trying, but through it all, we've learned and we've grown.
And it's been worth it.

Through it all - every up and down, twist and unexpected turn, there is one thing I never question about my relationship - how much we truly love each other.

It's in the way we look at each other. How we tell dirty jokes. It's in the way we make fun of each other. It's in the little every day things we do for each other (admittedly, Jesse is much better about the little things than I am). When I look at him, I can't imagine going through life with anyone else. I don't tell him that enough.
I'm pretty sure a good relationship is built upon encouraging your partner to embrace their inner child.

That and back rubs.

Relationships are like forests. There are so many things {trees} that make up a relationship and sometimes we get so caught up on one aspect of our relationship that we can't see the forest for the trees. Think about all the aspects that make up your relationship with your spouse or partner - your likes and dislikes, personalities, parenting styles, the things you have in common, the things that make you different, your hopes and dreams - each is just one tree that makes up the forest of your relationship.

One argument alone won't burn down the forest. One bad year in a 50-year-long marriage doesn't mean the relationship wasn't a good one. However, one infestation can infect the entire forest if it's not confronted, dealt with or managed.

Jesse and I are certainly guilty of not dealing with an infestation (or two, or seven) right away and giving some trees too much significance. Our relationship is not perfect. Far from it. There are days I want to hug Jesse and days I just want to smack him silly. We push each other's buttons. We make each other laugh. We comfort each other. And when it comes down to it, we make a pretty great team. We have been able to get the issues treated and see the big picture, in order to keep the forest of our relationship from dying.
Relationships can have some ugly trees, but that doesn't mean that the forest isn't beautiful.
Building and sharing your life with another person so intimately isn't easy, and we're just getting started. There is a lot of work and compromising ahead for Jesse and I, as well as a lot of wonderful moments, and I have no doubt that it will be worth it.


  1. Aww congratulations!! You look lovely together!:) Hope you have many more happy years together!:) X


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